You have grown up in a culture which has taught you taht you are not responsible for your feelings even though the syllogistic truth is that you always were. You've learned a host of sayings to defend yourself against the fact that you do not control your feelings. Here is a brief list of such utterances that you have used over and over:
You hurt my feelings
„I hurt my feelings because of the things I told myself about your reaction to me.
You make me feel bad.
I made myself feel bad.
I can't help the way I feel.
I can help the way I feel, but I've chosen to feel upset.
I just feel angry, don't ask me to explain it.
I've decided to be angry, because I can usually manipulate others with my anger, since they think I control them.
He makes me sick.
I make myself sick.
Heights scare me.
I scare myself at high places.
You are embarassing me.
I'm embarrassing myself.
She really turns me on.
I turn myself on whenever I'm near her.„
You made a fool of me in public.
I made myself feel foolish by taking your opinions of me more seriously than my own, and believing that others would do the same.